Here is the hard part first: two Virgos together can turn love into a maintenance project. You both notice the smudge on the glass, the slightly off tone in a text reply, the way a plan was almost right but not quite. Put two of you in a kitchen and you will both rearrange the dishwasher differently, then quietly redo each other's work when the other isn't looking. That is not a small thing. It can curdle into a low hum of mutual correction where neither of you feels like the help you're offering is actually landing as help.
But underneath that friction is a real comfort, and it is worth naming plainly: you do not have to translate yourself. When one of you cancels plans to reorganize a closet instead of resting, the other does not see laziness or avoidance, they see a nervous system doing what it needs to do. Mercury rules you both, so conversation between you tends to be quick, detailed, and oddly soothing, two minds that actually enjoy sorting through logistics rather than resenting them.
Being mutable helps too. Neither of you needs to win or hold a fixed position, so when friction shows up you can usually adjust rather than dig in. The risk there is drift without a fight to shake you out of it. You can both keep improving the relationship's small mechanics, the calendar, the errands, the shared spreadsheet, and forget to ask what it is all in service of.
What saves this pairing is deliberately loosening the grip. Praise the finished thing before you mention the flaw. Let one mess stay a mess. You already know how to fix things together. Learn to just sit in something unfixed, and let that be enough.